In Memoriam

Dear friends,

It is with profound sadness that I write to you today. Most of you already know, but for those who don’t, David, my brother and writer of this blog, lost his battle with cancer at the end of May. As he feared in his last post, the alternative treatments we tried were too little too late. He died at his home with our parents by his side. I echo his super praise that even in his last days on Earth, he was hardly in any pain.

Even now, five months later, it is hard to articulate the pain our parents and I feel at losing him. It doesn’t make sense to lose someone just two weeks after his thirty-fourth birthday. This is not fair. This is not right. This is not the way it should be.

But we can take comfort in the fact that, even in his too brief time with us, he was able to make a profound impact on those he came in contact with. If you haven’t read it, or just want to read it again, I recommend reading the tribute his work wrote for him. Everyone who read it loved it and it was quoted heavily at the services we had for him. Also check out the one at the website ITA, where he was a frequent contributor for several years. They have links to many posts he wrote which show the humor, grace, and intelligence that characterized not only his writing, but his whole life as well.

The only thing these two tributes don’t capture about my brother is his strong faith. It was a testament to how central it was to David’s life, that combining the viewing, funeral in New Jersey, and memorial service in Virginia, there were five Lutheran ministers who paid their respects. A verse used at both services comes from 1 Thessalonians 4: 13-18:

13Brothers, we do not want you to be ignorant about those who fall asleep, or to grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope. 14We believe that Jesus died and rose again and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. 15 According to the Lord’s own word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left till the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. 16 For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. 17 After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. 18 Therefore encourage each other with these words.”

And these are words we can take as encouragement. David believed, as all Christians do, that we will all, at the same time, be drawn to heaven and soar in the clouds. We will be lighter than the birds and much more beautiful than the sun.

Thank you to everyone who provided David with meals, visits, cards, late night NBA Jam sessions, friendship, and support throughout his treatment. I’ll close with the line that ends the American Historical Association’s tribute to him. “[T]here is only one David Darlington, inimitable in his modesty, exemplary in his conduct, and he cannot be replaced.”

Requiscat in pace.

-Stephen

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One response to “In Memoriam

  1. Barbara Darlington

    This is a wonderful tribute, Steve.

    Mom

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